- James Gordon: "I am officially the worst father of the year for letting you do this."
- Barbara Gordon: "Dad, I just have to hard-wire my laptop into Fallpoint's internal network. Once I'm in the kernel, I can destroy the Cortex. We'll be heroes!"
- James Gordon: "We'll be DEAD. This place is crawling with ninjas."
- Barbara Gordon: "They won't kill us. They'll just take us hostage. It's all good."
It’s been a strange last few days, but we should have our regular update tomorrow as planned. Sorry again for missing yesterday’s. Whatever bug I caught hit suddenly like a roundhouse kick to the gut and knocked me on my butt.
Come to think of it, Matt didn’t seem to catch anything - thank goodness. Also, I remember having a similar reaction a few weeks ago as well. I hope this isn’t another thing Mama Nature decided to throw into the ‘congratulations, your bits are hurtling towards the Second Change ahead of schedule’ mix. Oh dear.
Anyway, while the nausea and other assorted things went down by that evening, the fever and odd tightness in the head, hands, and wrist stuck around. It’s still lingering today, but using the sketchbook a bit helped. The knuckles of the right hand are still stiff and sore, but we’re getting closer to that strange, constant pressure feeling that’s become the norm so… I think we’re good to go.
I hope getting back into doing some practice work will help not only work out some of the pressure, but also help with my confidence. It’s been shot to hell over the last year between all that’s been happening and just generally running out of spoons. It’s… been a little rough.
So if I go quiet now and then or take a few days longer to respond than normal, please forgive me. That’s just me pulling away a bit to give myself a little quiet to get back on even footing.
If you’d like to help, there’s one simple thing you can do - no, it won’t cost you a dime, don’t worry. Mainly, please be understanding. Most of you are and I love you for it! But some of you can get a little hurtful at times. Before you send a post off, please read over what you’ve written and ask yourself if that’s something you would appreciate hearing. This isn’t me saying don’t have differentiating opinions or debate possible outcomes and ideas. No, that’s not it at all. It’s just… try to remember that Matt and myself are also living, breathing people, not puppets on the other side of the screen. If you don’t want Matt and myself to treat you a certain way, then please don’t do it to us.
I’m going to try using the practice as a distraction from some of what all’s going on. I’ll also likely be chattering on about comics a bit more as well. Again, another distraction. But hopefully they’ll be enjoyable ones for everyone.
Speaking of comics, I need to get to work so I’m not still shading at eleven this evening. The day’s almost half done already.
10 Traits of a Toxic Friend
I was re-reading my post from the other day about How to tell if he’s The One — because yes, I do read my own blog. More often than I should, actually…
I even laugh at the jokes… like I didn’t make them myself or something…
Don’t judge me. ;)
Anyhoo, it occurred to me that the whole “The one you choose should lift you up, not drag you down” thing applies to friendships as well, and not just romantic relationships.
Thing is, I think we tend to be more forgiving and less choosy about friends than we are about potential mates. Which actually makes sense, come to think of it. You can have lots of friends, but only one significant other. I hope.
But our friends are a really big part of our lives nonetheless. Their influence is significant, so it’s a mistake to underestimate their effect on our happiness and self-esteem.
Toxic friendships can destroy you. So we need to choose the people we hang around with well — especially since friends are often harder to break up with than love interests.
So how do you know if a friend is toxic? Actually, you probably already do, even without anyone having to tell you. Because when you’re with him or her, you’re just EXHAUSTED, and probably more than a little resentful.
But if you need a description to be sure, here’s a good one from Jenn Berman, PhD:
It’s someone who, after spending time with them, makes you feel bad about yourself instead of good; someone who tends to be critical of you — sometimes in a subtle way and sometimes not so subtle; a friend who drains you emotionally, financially, or mentally. - WebMD
Still not 100% sure? Here’s a checklist of traits to look out for:
Toxic friends are:
1. Negative to the point of being insulting - You know the type, because you roll your eyes or gnash your teeth every time you see their posts on Facebook (if you haven’t hidden or blocked them yet). They’re always complaining, they never see the bright side, and they put you and other people down constantly.
2. Unsupportive - You’re always there for them, but they can’t be counted on to be there for you. They downplay (or even make fun of) your achievements and other things that are important to you.
3. Envious/jealous/possessive - They’re never truly happy for other people because they want what they have. And if they can’t have something, no one can.
4. Manipulative - They’re only nice when they need something, and know all the right buttons to push to make you comply - including emotional blackmail. If you can’t give them what they want, you can be sure there’ll be hell to pay in one way or another.
5. Selfish/Self-centered - If it’s not about them, or if it doesn’t benefit them, they just can’t be bothered.
6. Immoral - You may like them, but you know you can’t trust them. They’re dishonest and/or unethical and just generally bad news, and they don’t normally appreciate advice or judgement from people looking to steer them toward a better path.
7. Insincere - They pretend to like/support/be happy for you when they’re with you, but behind your back it’s a whole other story. Even when they’re “being nice,” there’s always some sort of catty kicker.
8. Unavailable - They expect you to be available for them whenever they need you, but when you’re the one who needs a friend, they’re too busy to pencil you in. (See #5: Selfish)
9. Inconsiderate - They don’t care that their demands are inconvenient, and when you do make sacrifices to accommodate them, they’re rarely even grateful.
10. A bad influence - They push you to do things you’re uncomfortable with, and egg you on to make bad decisions and poor life choices.
Do you have friends like that? And if you do, should you dump them? Hmmm. Good question.
Call me idealistic (or even stupid), but I’ve always believed that “bad people” are never bad simply for the sake of being bad, or to make others miserable. It’s not like it’s something they plan.
So in many cases, although some friends may be difficult and semi-toxic, I tend to try to understand where they’re coming from, and just TELL them when they’re bugging the hell out of me. That usually works. Because when people are being bad friends, a lot of the time it’s because they’re just clueless, and you allow them to get away with it.
But when a friendship is so toxic that it’s sucking the life and goodness out of you, I think more drastic measures are necessary. Break it off. Just pull the plug. You don’t need that kind of crazy shiz in your life.
As my imaginary BFF Karen says:
Think about it. :)
Source: Cool World - Holli Dancing
Playing with colored pencils and pausing videos on YouTube. What? I like Bakshi’s films. They’re always so weird. Here’s the clip below. I’ll likely try doing some sketching from this again later when I’m more awake. Holli’s a fun character to draw.
No update Tuesday, August 26th. Taking a sick day due to being sick. Sorry for the delay. Whine, complain, or tell me how another comic artist is better because they don’t take a sick day and I’ll puke on you. (Yes, folks pull that last little gem. Aren’t some folks just so nice?)
See you Thursday.
Q:Dear Darc, when the fey kidnap children they say they leave changelings in their place. But what do the changelings do? Do they act like the child that was abducted or do they cause trouble for the parents or something?
Hey Reddog! While swapping a child for a changeling does happen, it’s not a very common occurrence. The more powerful Fey of the CN:H world tend to just snatch and run, figuring they can easily fend off any mortal pursuit. The less powerful occasionally use changelings. The hope is that they’ll hide the fact that the child is missing, giving the kidnapping Fey more time to get safely away as well as decrease the chances of the child being recovered - keep the child in Fey for twenty-four hours and it can’t go back home.
The changelings themselves are supposed to mimic the missing child’s appearance and behavior. Trouble is changelings, as a general rule, are flighty creatures and quickly become bored. It’s not unusual for a changeling to decide to randomly alter their disguise in an attempt to “play” with the missing child’s parents. Some like to make things appear out of nowhere or items fly across the room to scare the mortal family. The more “benevolent” ones use their magic to do helpful little tasks for the family, believing they are giving a valuable gift in exchange for the child. Eventually the changeling runs out of the house and returns to Fey. This can take anywhere from a few hours for the more mischievous ones to a few days.
The longest record RCSI has of a changeling standing in for a child happened in the sixties when a changeling remained in disguise for over five years, acting the part of the missing child the whole time. Eventually friends and neighbors convinced the distraught parents that the child’s lack of normal growth and development was not due to the child being a “late bloomer” and the changeling made an escape. As to why it carried out the deception for so long… no one really knows.
While changelings are a type of Fey, they can also refer to the act of glamouring an inanimate object to look and act like a living being. Like Greer did at the start of Issue 19.
The trouble with this method is that the glamour only lasts for a short amount of time. Still, for Fey who desire a bit of a head start yet don’t want to deal with hiring an actual living changeling… it’s an option.
Someone requested a hand tutorial, so I rambled. I didn’t even get to everything I would like to, so here is a part!
Great tutorial! Thank you for sharing this.